Anonymous said: Shut the fuck up about 50 shades of grey. No one fucking cares
let me just give you a quick run down of all the things wrong with this ask:
1-you assume i care what some asshole anon has to say when i have 300 pounds and i’m going kikass birthday shopping today
2-you assume id care about some asshole anon any other day of the year
3-i care about the 50 shades of grey thing. and whether you do or not is irrelevant to me because you are, after all, just an asshole anon
4- this is my blog and i’ll post whatever the fuck i want, if you cant take three fucking posts about something without turning into a soggy cum stained dishrag then i suggest you make use of that unfollow button because youre gross
5- lemme break this down for you
if you dont care about this 50 shades situation, you need to grow the fuck up and look at the facts
the fact is the book was so misinformed that all the practises about bdsm culture were ignored and shit all over.
he ignores the safeword
he legitimately rapes her
he never explains everything about bdsm culture to her, shes so misinformed its ridiculous
and all of this is going even more public than it already has and its being romanticised and released on valentines day
like “happy valentines honey! i bought some ropes i dont actually know how to tie and a whip i dont actually know how to use and i’m going to just gloss over the fact you’re uncomfortable because that clearly doesnt matter!”
incorrect use of a whip can cause organ failure
incorrect knots used on wristst or feet can literally cause them to need to be amputated
its perpetuating rape culture in ways ive never seen it be advanced to this leve; and if you dont care then youre truly disgusting
you dont care about the kids not fully understanding their sexuality being abused by older people who they think are totally allowed to do this shit?
you dont care about the people that will be raped because of this because hey apparently rape is sexy?
you dont care about the fact that the bdsm culture is, once again, being portrayed as people who are fucked up and must have been abused to be that way rather than normal people who enjoy a kink in their own homes?
you dont care about the fact that youre not supposed to bleed on your first time. ever. and now tons more girls are going to think that its completely normal? that tons more guys will? that tons of people are going to think its expected for the female to bleed when SHE WONT IF SHES BEEN SUFFICIENTLY TURNED ON AND STRETCHED ITS REALLY NOT THAT HARD
you dont care about the stereotype of subs not actually enjoying bdsm culture is being widespread? that all subs dislike it and simply have an ulterior motive?
you dont care about the underlying message of the book being “a woman should give everything, including herself, to a man”?
you dont care about all the people in abusive relationships that will think “oh well this must be normal then” and stay there?
christian grey is a run-of-the-mill abusive boyfriend. he isnt a dom.
a dom loves his/her sub completely and the motto of bdsm is "safe, willing and sane" (or something like that anyone feel free to correct me)
it means that both partners have to be completely willing, with boundaries, safewords and everything worked out before they even think about touching eachother intimately.
if something is a boundary, you dont fucking do it
if the safeword is used it stops. everything stops
a dom should treat his sub like a goddamn princess (unless they have prearranged and understand that he wont eg-pet play, slave play where anything outside of the bedroom is also in the same dynamic HOWEVER IT IS STILL CONSENSUAL SO IT IS STILL OKAY)
a dom is not christian grey
but millions of people are going to think he is and are going to think that thats the way bdsm should be and they’ll get involved in something very dangerous if they dont have the real facts.
that people will think its romantic because this shit is scheduled for valentines day to treat your partner like shit, abuse her, and that what? getting them off absorbs you of all your shit? no. this is so fucking gross and im not taking a backseat when this shit happens
so in conclusion
literally fuck you, you insensitive fuck stain, this issue is so fucking important.
Source on that quote is Melissa McEwan, since no one bothered to credit her for it.
Just want to add that I mistrust most people for this exact reason. Some of the worst calculated, ongoing misogynist bullying in my life happened in ~women only~ spaces. Men just are the only group who truly benefit from all this crap so it’s like five times as baffling but there ya go. When “women only” is treated like a sanctuary from misogyny I laugh and go hang out alone by myself. With men I just know it’s coming no matter what.(via toomanyfeelings)
A white woman is promoted: Whose dick did she suck?
A man of color is promoted: Oh, great, I guess we have to “fill quotas” now.
A woman of color is promoted: j/k. That never happens."
silver-seidr said: I'm watching Sailor Moon for the first time and at this point (sailor moon s) the only one of the inner senshi I can really see as straight is Minako, but even then, I don't know. They seem like a bunch of bi girls, but maybe that's just wishful thinking. How do you see them?
They’re all queer. Minako may come off as straight in the anime, but in the manga she is queer as fuck. Here’s how I see them.
Usagi- bi (I was gonna say pan, but actually I do think she finds different things attractive in men, women and inbetween) and potentially eventually polyamorous
Rei- open homoromantic asexual in the manga and PGSM and probably Crystal, closeted (but will eventually come out) lesbian in the 90s anime
Ami- biromantic ace (or maybe just bi- hard to say without more evidence)
Mako- bi- tends to favor boys, but when she crushes on a girl, she crushes hard (see: Ami and Haruka)
Haruka and Michiru- lesbian space princesses
Setsuna- bi- equal level crush on Serenity and Endymion
Chibiusa- bi like mama
Why do you think that they are ALL queer…?
How is Usagi bi? She isn’t in love with Haruka or Seiya (and even doesn’t know that Seiya is a girl until pretty late in the 90’s anime).
Rei has something close to a relationship with a man in the old anime (not saying anything about the other stuff…).
How do you get Ami’s vibes…? From where…? And how is she romnatically connected to Makoto?
Also I don’t think that admiring a woman (what you count as a “crush”) determines one sexuality (Makoto’s admiration for Haruka).
Why is Minako pansexual? (In the manga she has something for Rei, in the old anime she’s into boys - or do you consider her crush on Yaten as evidence?)
Setsuna has a crush on Endymion - that one’s true. But she just respects her queen… That doesn’t count as a crush.
Why is Hotaru a lesbian? Because she is close to Chibiusa…? Is that also the reason why you count Chibiusa as bisexual? Being close to a person also doesn’t determine your sexuality…
I don’t think that making people more queer than they are is better than making queer people heterosexual…
the better question is, why the fuck do you care about my headcanons? Do not follow my blog if you’re going to bother me with your heteronormative bullshit.
and you’re right, Usagi is so completely straight, there is no evidence she’s bi.
She completely platonically gets off on lingerie clad friends groping her breast
Minako is doing some really heteorsexual boob groping in her most heterosexual outfit too.
True, Usagi is known for going on buses specifically to check out hot girls, then getting hearts in her eyes and following them off the bus bc in her words “she’s so pretty”
How on earth could anyone read that as queer?
Note the official translation had her saying “I’ll forgive anything if it’s a pretty girl” or “I’ll do anything a pretty girl tells me to” something that people would be JUST SILLY to think is a sign Usagi is attracted to pretty girls.
And there was totally never the slightest sign she was attracted to Haruka
how heterosexually her heart pounds and she swoons slightly as she prepares for haruka to kiss her, offering no resistance.
Usagi completely heterosexually had a dream about Haruka kissing her after it happened and woke up flushed and feeling like she’d cheated on Mamoru, which I’m not sure why she’d think that. considering how straight she is.
In the anime, she was stalked Haruka for an entire episode and asked if she had a girlfriend in a heterosexual way, was head over heels about the idea of dancing with her in a heterosexual way, and the other girls swooned and were jealous of usagi for dancing with her in a heterosexual way.
And you’re right! Rei had a guy who has a crush on her in the anime! It’s true that she said outright she didn’t have any feelings for him and simply admired his devotion to her in her R episode with Koan, but we all know women aren’t allowed to decide whether they want to be in a relationship with a guy who likes him. If a guy likes them, they are OBLIGATED to return their feelings! And Rei definitely wasn’t know to have really gay moments with Usagi.
and it’s not like Usagi ever teased her about possibly being gay, or that she tried to hide an interest in attractive women.
I’m such a silly, where do I get this stuff.
And she comes off as so hetero in the manga. Definitely nothing ever implied there.
nooooope. Nothing implied with Minako either (ps i did say Minako might come off as straight in the anime- however, since her anime character wasn’t as developed, i tend to fill in gaps with her manga and pgsm characterization.)
definitely they weren’t super queer in PGSM or anything either.
(don’t think being “they type who doesn’t like boys” means Rei isn’t straight. It’s a new type of straightness we haven’t identified but we’re working hard)
And yeah, that Makoto and her platonic fascination with Ami’s butt, that she doesn’t take her eyes off for a full minute
And how could I read Chibiusa and Hotaru’s friendship as anything but platonic? I mean, Hotaru totally platonically fondling Chibiusa’s naked chest.
totally platonically gazing lovingly into each other’s eyes. while naked. Foreheads touching.
this completely platonic scene
Hotaru may have never shown any interest in boys, but you’re right, i should read her as straight regardless.
how could anyone think that was gay, with that phrasing. Especially since Mamoru watches on and describes it as “giving his daughter away as a bride”. Platonically.
I’m so sorry that I, a silly, stupid queer woman, dared try to read any of these characters as queer. Everyone is straight until proven otherwise, you’re right. You’ve shown me the way with your hetero wisdom.
(guess what? Even if this wasn’t all true? It wouldn’t fucking matter. I can read characters however I want, and no one needs “evidence” they are not straight. Straight should not be the fucking default, and queer people can look for representation and read relationships as romantic or platonic. You can bet if they were het, none of these relationships would be read as platonic. And there is a much evidence for a crush on Serenity for Pluto as there is for Endymion- neither are outright confirmed in the text of the manga, just “admiration”. Naoko says Setsuna has “adulterous” feelings which could refer to BOTH OF THEM (I doubt that’s what she MEANT, but she didn’t say anything concrete, so guess what? I can interpret it as I want). So get the hell out of here with your assumptions).
(Also I read Haruka as genderqueer in the manga. I hope that makes you REALLY upset).
20 ways to spot a raging misogynist masquerading under the guise of “queer activism”.
1.If they try and shut down or divert women’s conversations about menstruation, abortion, pregnancy or any other “female specific” experience.
2.If they refuse to acknowledge the role that sex socialization…